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'Sex' Book Authored by Rich Central Girls Coach Draws Ire

District 227 board president Betty Owens plans to investigate popular girls varsity coach Bryan Craig, who wrote a relationship book titled "It's Her Fault" encouraging women to perform oral sex and take on multiple sex partners.

Update at 6:30 pm: Chicago Tribune is reporting that Bryan Craig has resigned as the girls basketball coach and that he's been placed on administrative leave.

Original post, 3:30 p.m.

The girls varsity basketball coach at  — who moonlights as a bouncer at a Chicago strip club — is under school board investigation for a book he wrote encouraging promiscuity and oral sex.

Bryan Craig published the book It's Her Fault in July, describing it as a "relationship guide" designed to give women the "upper hand" in their dealings with men.

But School Board President Betty Owens is taking issue with the book, which is laced with profanity and graphic descriptions, including Craig's views on the differences between the vaginas of black women and white women.

“It’s distasteful, it’s inappropriate, and it wouldn’t be on my list of things to read,” Owens told Sun-Times Media in a report published Friday afternoon, noting that the board will investigate.

Craig, a guidance counselor at the Olympia Fields high school, states in the book that he provides marital and pre-marital couples counseling.

"I have spent most of my life as many men do ... surrounded by women," Craig writes in the forward, noting that he was raised by his mother and grandmother. Craig has a masters degree in counseling psychology from Lewis University in Romeoville.

The professional experience he cites in the book includes work as an in-patient counselor at a Naperville mental health facility, as a counselor at Mount Sinai in Chicago and provider of in-home counseling through the Department of Children and Family Services on behalf of Centers for New Horizons. 

The self-published book, produced via authorhouse.com, is listed as a "self help" and "personal growth" title and is available on Amazon.com for $11.95 and iTunes for $3.95.

"My grandfather said it best when he said, 'Marry a woman who loves you more than you love her.' ... As I became older, it became a mission, then a goal," writes Craig, who also dedicated the book to his wife: "To my twin, my rock, my wife, Red."

He also writes that "the easiest kill for a man is through the young lady with low self-esteem.”

Another line in the book: "Even though I feel I’m beyond the highest caliber of men, I still have a weakness for cleavage."

He goes on to describe the ethnic variations in women's genitalia and recommends that all men and women should be promiscuous before marriage, offering guidance to women on why they should take multiple lovers and how they should perform oral sex.

Craig, who grew up on the South Side and saw athletics as a way to avoid gangs and violence, . He is entering his fourth season as a coach.

He is admired by his players.

“He’s like the daddy of the team. He can talk to us in a parental type of way,” .

A former student, Kristina Collie, told Patch she would sometimes joke about growing up to be a "trophy wife" but Craig would tell her not to joke like that.

“He really cares about my future,” Collie told Patch reporter David Noell, adding that he pushed her to go to college and get a degree.

Craig remains in place as varsity girls coach, according to Rich Township High School District 227 Supt. Donna Simpson Leak.

“He has his constitutional right to free speech,” Leak told Sun-Times Media. “We are concerned, we don’t condone what’s in his book, and we are monitoring it so this doesn’t create a situation at the school.”

What do you think? Is this an appropriate book for a girls varsity basketball coach to publish? Would you want him serving as a coach and counselor to your child?


NotBuyingIt September 02, 2012 at 05:31 PM
So Danielle_Nicole, Can you honestly tell us that with what you now know about Mr. Craig, that you would be happy with him mentoring, advising, counseling your daughters??
A.R. September 02, 2012 at 06:52 PM
Well, I haven't read the book in its entirety, but I did wander over to Amazon to take advantage of the "look inside" option. What I read was pretty rudimentary and offensive. It certainly didn't stimulate a desire for me to buy it. I also noticed very poor writing, grammar, and punctuation. I guess this happens from time to time to the best of human beings, however, this book also has an editor and a note from her that also has grammatical errors. Oh, the irony! As we all know, opinions are like a**holes and every "body" has one. I believe in being able to judge people based on their choices and decisions. For example, if you have a neighbor on a sexual predator watch list, would you let him babysit your children even if he has turned his life around, gotten a job, a degree, and became an ordained minister? Probably not. We use judgement every day in our lives. Unfortunately, not everyone is equipped with the best judgement and some end up making poor choices that they'll have to deal with. Karma is real but the best part is that we get to learn lessons from our mistakes (only if we believe they were mistakes). If anything, this book can be essential in teaching women how to spot and stay away from people who think like Mr. Craig. At school he may wear a cape and save lives through his dedication to academia, but who is he in the strip club or when hanging out with his friends? That's my opinion and not necessarily the truth for all people. :-)
S.Latif September 02, 2012 at 10:30 PM
High School is a very pivotal point for young adults. Many are navigating to adulthood very fast, including being involved in romantic relationships. Many teens and preteens are already having sex within intense and emotional driven relationships. I do not agree with this path, but that is the state of affairs in today's society. As a coach and a guidance counselor, it should be realized that you would be looked up to and seen as a model for behavior, in school/on the court, or outside of school. Students who read, will get a copy of your book and hang on to every word as it is law. Especially, it the content swirls and relates to sex and relationships. Which most teens are naturally drawn to. I would have loved to see him write about how to be a good husband/wife, father/mother, friend, productive citizen, intellectual, defender of justice, empathy, serving mankind and the earth, etc..So many other necessary things that we need to work on, to put energy into that is light years ahead of any sexual "manual". I pray that he continues to protect his modesty, his wife's , his co-workers, and the girls/boys he comes in contact with. We have enough focus on carnal desires today, lets move beyond that please, teens are watching, listening, and learning.
S.Latif September 02, 2012 at 10:31 PM
Erica, I understand that he is someone that you have considered to be a role model for you. High School is a very pivotal point for young adults. Many are navigating to adulthood very fast, including being involved in romantic relationships. Many teens and preteens are already having sex within intense and emotional driven relationships. I do not agree with this path, but that is the state of affairs in today's society. As a coach and a guidance counselor, it should be realized that you would be looked up to and seen as a model for behavior, in school/on the court, or outside of school. Students who read, will get a copy of your book and hang on to every word as it is law. Especially, it the content swirls and relates to sex and relationships. Which most teens are naturally drawn to. I would have loved to see him write about how to be a good husband/wife, father/mother, friend, productive citizen, intellectual, defender of justice, empathy, serving mankind and the earth, etc..So many other necessary things that we need to work on, to put energy into that is light years ahead of any sexual "manual". I pray that he continues to protect his modesty, his wife's , his co-workers, and the girls/boys he comes in contact with. We have enough focus on carnal desires today, lets move beyond that please, teens are watching, listening, and learning.
Worthy September 03, 2012 at 12:39 AM
What a teacher does in there private life outside of school should be mostly there own business. Unless they are breaking the law or doing something within the community itself that is obscene. Be the author of a book with adult sexual information in it should not be grounds for suspension of a teacher. Unless the teacher is somehow associating himself to the high school in the book. It was dumb of the school district administration to even publicly acknowledge the existence of the book. It should have been privately reviewed. I would sue the school district if I were this teacher. For the emotional distress and damage to his reputation that the school disctrict's actions have cause him. Authoring a book should almost never be reason to be terminated. The teacher being the author should have never even been brought to the publics attention by the school board.
Common Sense Club September 03, 2012 at 01:26 AM
Ask the IHSA I'm sure they can fill you in on what a lot of people know that you don't.
Common Sense Club September 03, 2012 at 01:29 AM
Writing about taking advantage of women while being a counselor and coach of impressionable young women while working at a strip club = Scum Bag
capricorn September 03, 2012 at 01:42 AM
Get your facts straight the man has several degrees in counseling, therapy and psychology. People please stop speaking about things you dont know you are talking about a mans career and his family. To many of our african american men have been labled and wrong and have lost their lives. Stop thinking like children no was has said one time that this man has did anything to those children but care and try to be a example for them. Now what he chooses to write about in abook that is meant for adults to read has no bearing on where he works. And yes he spoke of the anatomy of the body so DAMN what get real grow up you all have done worse in your life and in front of some of your children, Stop casting stones you all will pay for this later in life. It is going to come soon when you find you tried to disroy a mans life because he decided to write about things he has delt with and trying to stop others from making the same mistake. If your child happens to get to read the book you better be glad because it is the real world those things happen in relationships it's life get out of your small minded boxes. Until you read SHUT THE HELL UP. Just knowyou have family to this could happen you something inicent blown out of porportion. THE BOOK WAS NOT WROTE FOR CHILDREN NOR IS IT BEING SOLD IN THE BOOK STORES AND HE NEVER APPROACH A CHILD ABOU T. BLAME THE PERSON THAT INFORMED THE SUPT. THAT OWENS IDIOT SHE IS THE ONE THAT PUT IT OUT FOR THE CHILDREN TO KNOW ABOUT NOT HIM BLAME HER
capricorn September 03, 2012 at 01:44 AM
How the hell do you know all of this are you the supposedly woman and you are mad that he turned you down get a life chick
capricorn September 03, 2012 at 01:52 AM
the book was for adults. Not in the school library if you want to blame someone blame the coleman chick the ignorant supt. she is the one that has the book out in the school he did not bring it there. If you have a problem with him writing a book then I guess you should not be saying what you are saying on this page. He has freedom of speech just like you all. You have no reason for him to be terminated because he wrote a self help book for adults ADULTS please stop actng like you have never read a real sex book lookede at pictures oh I guess you don't have sex with your partner be for real people. Who better to write a self help book than a trained counselor with DEGREES. iT;S HIS OPINION YOU HAVE YOURS DONT YOU DONT BUY THE BOOK IF YOU DON'T CHOOSE TOO BUT DON'T TEAR A MANS LIFE UP BECAUSE SOME READ IT AND IT HIT HOME SO THEY CHOSE THE ANATOMY PART AND MAKE IT SOUND BAD. READ IT YOURSELF LEARN SOMETHING ABOUT LIFE AND TODAYS WORLD. OR SHUT THE HELL UP. FREEDOM OF SPEECH PEOPLE.
Kelly September 03, 2012 at 02:38 AM
As a high school guidance counselor and girl's basketball coach, he should have known better. There's nothing wrong with moonlighting as a bouncer or being an author. But why would a person knowingly associate themselves with those (for some, unseemingly) activities when the public is entrusting them to lead and guide their children? Why would one take that chance? In an era where people lose their jobs and get removed from sports teams all because of their pics and comments in social media, it should have been easy for this coach/counselor to understand what might be at stake. After all, Illinois is an "at-will" state, meaning a person can be hired at will, and fired at will. Given the fact that he's resigned his post as basketball coach and has now been placed on administrative leave, the writing is on the wall (no pun intended). As mentioned in my first post, he will likely have a successful career as an author...that may be his true calling. Call me an ignorant idiot if you will; I don't have to read the book to wish him well.
Stephane Carlson September 03, 2012 at 02:39 AM
Here's the thing though. A published book is NOT private! In fact, the definition means to make public. Look at the etymology! Meanwhile, in Illinois, employers can fire their employees for no reason at all. Illinois is an "employment at-will" state. Perhaps publishing under a pseudonym would have been of better judgment. And, while the school he works for was not specifically mentioned, his job at a school clearly was. Page xi, (Foreward).
Juvenal September 03, 2012 at 03:48 AM
1) It does not appear that Rich Central has graduated (or, evidently, hired)anyone with a decent command of the English language in years; 2) the bar for a good male role model in the Rich Central community must be very low indeed; and 3) As far as I can tell this lowlife has only given up his coaching position, and will still hold on to his sweet, well paid counseling gig and his platinum-plated benefit package....
Juvenal September 03, 2012 at 03:50 AM
http://www.familytaxpayers.org/ftf/ftf_teacher.php?tid=71308&year=2011
Virgo September 03, 2012 at 03:02 PM
Let me start by saying this: Every person has a right to voice their opinion in every way imaginable.So for ppl to actually drag an authors name in the dirt just because you happen to have soft feelings; GET OVER IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Now Im not saying i agree with every little thing in the book but you ppl have no GOD giving right to do what your doing, his book has nothing to do with his career with the school system. So for weak minded individuals who want band-wagon or no real insight or even the possibility of not opening your mind: Go Kill Yaself!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Tygib September 03, 2012 at 03:03 PM
I agree with all of the commonsense, well thought out and impassioned comments by the ADULTS out there. It was a HUGE error in judgement on Coach Craig's part. ADULTS WHO ARE IN POSITIONS OF INFLUENCING YOUNG LIVES (EDUCATION) ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR SETTING POSITIVE IMAGES! What is done in the dark always comes to light, and Mr. Craig's authoring this book, while for adults was meant to be found out. I do not think that book of this nature was meant to be taken seriously. He wrote this book for the "Love & Hip Hop", "Basketball Wives" and other trashy shows of that ilk crowd. He had a target audience in mind. Possibly the target audience was the young ladies at Rich Central. It would be very telling if Mr. Craig hid his literary aspirations from his employer at Rich Central. Also, the responses by capricorn and erica w suggest that Coach Craig has prevailed. These impressionable young ladies fell for his allure hook, line and sinker. These two fail to understand that the problem lies in Mr. Craig's judgement to write a book of this nature while employed as a steward over young children.
capricorn September 03, 2012 at 03:30 PM
DO YOU HAVE A SECOND JOB, IF YOU DON'T GOOD FOR YOU HE IS TRYING TO TAKE CARE OF HIS FAMILY. WHEN DID BEING A SECURITY GUARD BECOME SO HORRIBLE. IT'S A JOB YOU WOULD TAKE IT IF THEY OFFERED IT. THERE ARE NOT MANY JOBS AT NIGHT WHEN YOU ALREADY HAVE A FULL TIME JOB. GET A FREAKIN LIFE DUMB BUT AND BY THE WAY I THINK YOU HAVE TO BE TWENTY ONE THAT IS A ADULT AM I CORRECT. THIS IS NOT AT THE SCHOOL GET SOME BUSINESS WHAT HE DOES ON HIS OWN TIME IS NOT YOURS DOES YOUR JOB KNOW YOU DO IN YOUR PERSONAL LIFE. WE ALL AS ADULTS ARE SUPPOSE TO BE ROLE MODELS AND PARENTS BE YOUR OWN CHILDRENS ROLE MODELS STOP LOOKING FOR EVERYONE ELSE TO DO YOUR JOB. YOU SHOULD BE TELLING YOUR CHILDREN IF YOU ACTUALLY READ THE BOOK ARE ANY OF THESE THINGS HAPPENING TO YOU IF SO LETS TALK. STOP BEING NASTY PEOPLE YOUR MINDS ARE HORRIBLE. SELF HELP BOOK.
capricorn September 04, 2012 at 12:14 AM
Steve Burke and Not buying it. you two are idiots and need to go back to school neither of you comprehend what is being written, the man is a counselor so if you want to talk about the way the students are expressing themselves find out who there english teacher was Mr; Craig was there counselor not their teacher and if you have a problem with the education at RC then take your kids out of the school stop trying to tear down these young woman and men for voicing their opinion dont get mad because they know the man and was a great mentor to them and you don't know him and are judging on what you have heard remember you are still on this earth you may be next that someone lies on and tries to tear your life apart. Get a life read the book or SHUT THE HELL UP
capricorn September 04, 2012 at 12:20 AM
ARE YOU ANOTHER SANDUSKY BECAUSE OF YOUR THOUGHTS ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS AND THE ANATOMY OF THE HUMAN BODY OH NO I KNOW YOU ARE A VIRGIN YEAH RIGHT SHUT UP THIS BOOK HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HIS COACHING KEEP YOUR PERVERTED FREINDS IN YOUR FAMILY AND LEAVE THIS MAN ALONE. YOU ALL NEED TO QUIT TRYING TO JUDGE YOU ARE NOT GOD , HE WILL BE JUDGING YOU HOW BOUT THAT. NEVER MESS WITH GOD'S CHILDREN. WATCH OUT YOU ARE NEXT TO BE DONE THE WAY YOU ARE DOING HIM.
Leona Tichenor September 04, 2012 at 01:54 AM
I'm already imaging the Dr. Phil Show on this sorry mess.
Leona Tichenor September 04, 2012 at 02:14 AM
I'm trying to figure out how Mr. Craig gathered his information about vaginal walls. Since they cannot be visualized without a speculum and bright light he must have had some interesting conversations on his dates. Seriously, the material sounds about like what adolescent boys dream up in locker room conversations. Although he is entitled to due process anyone with an I pad and an I tunes card can read the material. It would appear to be easily accessible to curious students for $3.99. I don't think he can be an effective guidance counselor going forward.
Gina September 04, 2012 at 06:32 PM
It's "soar", not "sore", Miss BA in journalism. And I really don't think we're going to see this work hitting the NY Times bestseller list any time soon.
Danielle_Nicole September 06, 2012 at 06:42 PM
NotBuyingIt, going solely off the interactions I had with Craig while attending Rich Central yes I would be okay with him working with any child of mine. Unless he recently developed these ideals I do not believe they have interfered with his ability work with youth. Gina, thanks for taking the time out to edit my comment. I'll be sure to send you all my scripts before they hit the teleprompter. Oh I forgot I already have a great editor for that. Thanks again though :-)
NotBuyingIt September 07, 2012 at 02:55 AM
Capricorn, you are clearly a troubled individual...
NotBuyingIt September 07, 2012 at 03:02 AM
Danielle_Nicole, my question was not limited to your interactions with Craig while attending RC... My question clearly asked you about what you now know about him... Knowing that he chose to work at a strip club, knowing that he decided to write this book which describes the differences of... Well, you know... Knowing all of that, would you want him mentoring your daughters... I think not, or you wouldn't be proactively protecting them...
Juvenal September 19, 2012 at 01:41 AM
http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/local/breaking/chi-school-to-discuss-status-of-counselor-who-wrote-racy-book-20120918,0,5047191.story?track=rss Someone challenged my reference to the "inevitable lawsuit" Here it comes.... Any lawyer dumb enough to really believe that "First Amendment Rights" were violated will get crushed trying to pursue this case.......
Jr hates central September 19, 2012 at 06:51 PM
Lol I just tranferred from central and mr.craig was my counselor. As hilarilous as I think this is, Rich Central is a mess. the kids get bullied, like me, and those teachers don't care anything about the students and now this.
Tina Johnson November 03, 2012 at 03:56 PM
Judge not, that you be not judged. For with that judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measure back to you
NotBuyingIt November 05, 2012 at 05:29 PM
Huh??? That's your response??? A bible quote??? Get REAL Tina!! It's our JOB as parents to "judge" the people that interact with and influence our children, and then after "judging" them, we decide whether or not we should allow them to have that interaction and influence over our children. This is called good parenting, and DON'T think that by pulling out some biblical quote to hide behind that you can stop people from doing the right thing.
JRAYERAYE November 12, 2012 at 08:31 PM
I went to college with this guy - and for the most part he was the least dangerous out of all the jerks. Truth is he was jus as much a womanizer as most of the guys on a college campus but he wasn't harmful and in my experience he was a good guy. the problem here is not his freedom or speech being taken it was his own lack of good judgement that has ended his career and caused this embarrassment. After you begin educating/coaching/mentoring children, you have reduced your freedom of speech significantly. Ever hear of a pen-name??? He could have written this book and released it under a "alias". Dude, ur a girls' team coach, that would make any parent nervous! If he's got a helluva attorney he will win this suit, but in reality I think he should get nothing...just a lesson learned. It was foolish PERIOD.

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